Good day to you.
Frankly, I just started following your blog recently but during this short time span, it has given me realistic insights to working, settling in and the culture of Japan.
It has been nearly 11 years since I came to love the country and in 2014, I finally made it to this land.
The trip inspired me to one day be able to work and settle down in this place.
Back to Singapore, I dropped the question of possibility of both my mum (I’m her only dependent) and me moving to Japan when I secure a job there. What came back was a absolute rejection of the idea.
So finally what I need to seek your advice on (sorry for just a long background) is:
– Did you have to convince your parents to let you leave Singapore for Japan?
– If so, how did you do it?
– Do you know of anyone who has someone dependent on them solely and also managed to fulfill their dream of working in Japan?
Really appreciate your time reading this and I hope to hear your reply soon!
Hi KC. Do not apologize for the background information. It definitely gives me a better idea of your situation to make an appropriate reply.
1) Did you have to convince your parents to let you leave Singapore for Japan? If so, how did you do it?
– I remember writing somewhere about disapproval from one of my parents (i.e. the father), and how I asked my mum about it. Frankly, I never asked my mum for approval to leave for Japan. All I asked was how she would feel if I left for Japan. Well, the exact situation was me leaving for a 6-month study and of course 6 months wouldn’t be a problem, but I asked her how she would feel if I were to get a job in Japan after my course. I’m very grateful that she was very open to the idea and told me to go ahead if that’s what I wanted to do even though I know she really prefers to have me by her side. As for my dad, knowing that I was going overseas, he asked me to go China instead. I simply said no. I’ve heard stories from a few people on disapproving parents and I understand how difficult that must be. My situation probably doesn’t give you much clue as to how to deal with your situation, but like you, I’ve proposed to my mum to come over to live with me a number of times, and she’s always rejected the idea since she doesn’t speak the language, have no friends and family here apart from myself.
2) Do you know of anyone who has someone dependent on them solely and also managed to fulfill their dream of working in Japan?
– I’m afraid I do not know such a person or maybe just that I do not know the situation of my friends well enough. Nevertheless, I hope by posting this here, someone who had the same experience may be able to offer you some advice.
My apologies that this is the best I can do.