The Shy Hokkaido Girl


Recently while overseas for work and travel, i end up meeting a girl from hokkaido who kind of stands out a lot by keeping to herself.
I didnt get to talk to her but the hostel manager who worked where we lived in gave her my no and she initiated contact. I really want to get to know her better but am at a loss as to how to understand her better.

Do you have any clues as to what ladies from hokkaido are like? How can i get to know them better?



Hi N,

My sincerest apologies for taking this long to respond, and I’m not going to make up any excuses for the delay. I’m guessing by now, the make or break point in your potential relationship would already have passed. But to be honest, I’m not even sure I could offer any advice since I know neither you nor the Hokkaido girl.

I’m not certain how you guys are keeping in contact but if it’s not using any free apps (since you mentioned she has your number and Japanese people hardly use Whatsapp), perhaps getting her Line account would be a good step toward communicating more effectively since Line apps are part of many Japanese people’s daily lives. Hang on. I just assumed she has a smartphone but I’ll just go along with my presumptions.

It’s not very common for Japanese women to initiate contact so her having done that means she, more likely than not, is interested in you. Perhaps if it’s an option, visit her again within this year and ask her to go out with you. Nothing beats getting to know her in person. If I were to meet someone I’m interested in during a trip, I would visit her again while her impression of me is still fresh.

A couple of years ago while I was still doing full-time freelance and had the freedom to arrange my schedule, I went to Okinawa to get my scuba diving license in the summer. At the diving school, I met this girl I was really interested in, and so I made an excuse to visit her again by returning the following month for the advanced diving licence, which is not necessary since we don’t really go beyond 18 meters under water much.

So there was this whole story in between where she hugged me, and yet flirted with another guy (and I probably ran into her making out with him behind a vehicle although I can’t say for sure since I didn’t exactly see it happening, but they were both standing really close to each other looking awkward with the guy’s glasses on the ground), and when I was out the following day with a former hostess from Kyoto, she called to ask me out, but I said I was busy and eventually nothing happened for us.

But if things still haven’t gotten awkward between you, perhaps you might want to visit her again within the year.

All the best to you.



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