Some time last year while I was helping friend N with his work involving children, a certain event took place that kinda disturbed me for a bit. When N told this to a few other female friends, all of them found it shocking.
What happened during class one day was that one of the girls about 5-6 years old raised her hand and said she needed to use the bathroom. N told her to go ahead but the girl said she didn’t want to go by herself. So, being the kind teacher, N took her to the bathroom since there was no female adult around. Arriving at the bathroom, N told the girl to go in while he waits outside. However, the little girl said she can’t do it herself and wanted N to go in with her. N hesitated for a while and when the girl started whining, he caved and went into the stall with her. But that wasn’t the worst part.
After the little girl was done, she just stood there. N told her to clean herself up, pull up her pants and go back to class. But the girl shook her head and said she didn’t know how to clean herself up. Thinking he’s got no choice, N grabbed the tissue and cleaned up the little girl. If you think about it, this is one 50-over-year-old man coming into physical contact with the intimate parts of a little girl who is basically unrelated to him. I knew N didn’t have any ill intentions as he probably just saw her like his own granddaughter, caring for her. But when N told me about it, I was worried for him.
What if the girl’s parents learn of it? What would they think?
What if I was in his shoes? What would I have done?
What if you learn that your daughter’s male teacher did that for your daughter? Would you be outraged?
I dun think the teacher should have done that- even if it’s not out of ill intentions, he’s putting himself at risk of being accused.
In SG, male Teachers in childcare centres are even banned from entering the children’s toilet. Only female Teachers can shower the children (both boys and girls) and help them in toileting.
5-6 year old children can talk well, if they were to go home and tell their parents- there will b a big Hoo-ha.
I agree. Imagine some adult woman going into the toilet and seeing him and the little girl coming out from the stall. I might call the police if I were to see an old man locked in the stall with my little girl. Since there weren’t any other female teachers around, I’m not sure what I would’ve done. But I would think getting an older 8-, 9-year-old girl to help the little girl would’ve been better.
5-6 year old children are capable of going toilet by themselves- one way to solve this problem is to get the girl’s Best Friend (or female classmate) to go accompany her. And there’s no need to help a 5-6 year old child to clean up- the child would have learnt this self-help skill by now. Even if the child couldn’t, best decision is to make a call to parents/grandparents of the child if u are really unable to get a female teacher to help.
Calling the family doesn’t seem to be an option since by the time they get here, she would likely have wet herself.
But I agree that there are so many other possibilities, including being firm about having her do it herself. I’m sure she would manage when thrown into that situation.
She was just trying to be a princess and want to feel special having the teachers treat her different than the other students. In any case, the caring grandpa option that N took was really worrying. Hopefully this doesn’t come back to haunt him in the future.
uh bruh. to be honest, that hopefully probably will happen . given that you kinda talk about it , and that N shared with a few other people , chance are, gossips spread fast, and yeah. it will probably bite him hard.
that said, if I’m in his situation, I’d refuse to clean the girl up , nor enter the toilet to begin with. it’s a huge risk that i’m totally not willing to take, lest i get caught or that she decides to pwn me by screaming molest (if she even understand what it means).
Just personal 2 cents, but kids like that dont deserve the princess treatment even if they want it. they ought to eventually figure out that the world is a cruel place, and no ones gonna clean them up when they grow up.
that said, not sure if it’s out of coincidence or what that your recent articles just reminds me of mangas ive read in the past, but this incident reminds me of this manga : https://dynasty-scans.com/series/kodomo_no_jikan
Yes, I wouldn’t agree to entering the stall with her either, much less clean her up.
I’m sure she’s capable of doing it herself but just wants special treatment. And I now know you read a lot of comics lol